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Posted on Jul 7, 2015 in Blog, Success

Barbara Corcoran Talks Success: The Joys of Getting There

Barbara Corcoran: Mistakes people make

 

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Working Moms: Effective Behaviors of Wise Mothers

Posted on Sep 15, 2010 in Blog, Business, Families, Family, Motherhood, Parenting, Working Moms

Working Moms

Effective Behaviors of Wise Moms

A touch of uplifting news from the “can women really be well grounded in faith, have a career they love, family, balance and success? Its a well known fact that the life of a working mother can be truly hectic. There is never enough time in the day. We’re regularly pulled in many places at once and seemingly never complete our lists of to do’s.

Fortunately, there are a few approaches to make the juggling demonstration more sensible. While looking into my book Mogul, Mom & Maid: The Balancing Act of the Modern Woman, I talked with working moms from all over the nation, and discovered the happiest among them had added to the same great propensities. Here are eight propensities for savvy working moms.

1. Seek help from others

Effective working moms aren’t reluctant to request what they require. Whether they need help around the house, somebody to drive their kid to class or a donning occasion, or some help at the workplace, they request what they require and don’t depend on other individuals to peruse their brains.

2. Delegate

Similarly, ladies with some spare time no doubt got to that place by outsourcing. Whatever your financial plan, there are presumably a few errands you can offload to another person keeping in mind the end goal to free up time for yourself. Administrations like Task Rabbit let you name the cost you’re willing to pay for family errands and errands. Even administrations will send cards to say thanks for your sake. What’s more, on the off chance that they can manage the cost of it, upbeat working moms procure a cleaning administration and go through their weekends with family and companions, not with a mop and container.

3. Don’t be so hard on yourself

Obviously, when you begin giving others a chance to help, you should be arranged to acknowledge their method for doing things. Possibly you wouldn’t dress your tyke in plaid and stripes, or maybe you’d stack the dishwasher an alternate way. Release it to discover equalization. Fruitful ladies know an undertaking finished is an errand finished.

4. Don’t settle

Smart working moms realize that the power to discuss all options is an ability that ought to be sharpened and worked out. When you open the force of arrangement, you realize that everything is on the table – strategic scheduling, telecommute days, more help with the housework.

5. Embrace innovation

Wired ladies are shrewd ladies. Is your life excessively occupied? There’s an application for that. Mythical beast gives you a chance to manage reminders while you drive.

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Working Dads Want Balance Too

Posted on Sep 15, 2010 in Blog, Families, Family, Fatherhood, Health, Parenting, Work-life Balance, Working Dads

Working Dads and Balance

Working Dads Want Balance Too

Oftentimes, working environments are not open to men putting family first. There are things we all can do to help gradually transform our work environment societies with the goal that fathers can feel more secure in talking about, tending to and notwithstanding pleasing family requests at work. In the event that you have the security and fearlessness to do as such, we require you to be a good example. There’s no preferred time over National Work and Family Month to begin. Here’s the manner by which.

When work associates go to a male worker’s office and see several family photos, it should be an indication that it is fine for men to talk about family in the workplace.

For men, discussions about family while at work is often times related to supporting men who ask for adaptability mainly with a workplace related situation, and to adjust work and family basically through casual courses of action or exploring other options.

These may be great techniques for the person, however they do nothing to help coworkers, particularly kindred fathers who have many of the same concerns and responsibilities. On the off chance that our era of occupied, included fathers don’t begin getting change going through our noticeable activities, organization societies will stay unchallenged. In the event that no courageous working fathers make obvious moves to adjust work and family, our kindred fathers will keep on feeling as though they need to battle alone, with nobody to bolster them.

Along these lines, on the off chance that you have the security, adaptability, strength and slant (I perceive some may have more capacity to do this at work than others), here are two things we can do in our work environments to make it less demanding for fathers to examine and address their work-family challenges.

1. Discuss your family and inquire with fellow fathers regarding theirs

2. Take advantage of workplace flexibility while ensuring that fellow fathers notice you doing so

Oftentimes, men don’t talk about family issues as promptly as women do, particularly in the work environment. As often as opportunities present themselves, take advantage of your ability to change this trend if it’s occurring in your work environment. Here are a few things we can do:

Upsize the photos of your family on your office desk. Doing so makes an important statement to coworkers and others who visit you there.

During breaks, talk with other men about something fun you did with your children recently.

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Multi-tasking Myths

Posted on Sep 15, 2010 in Blog, Business, Business Coaching, Productivity, Professional Development, Success

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Why Multitasking Isn’t What It’s Hyped Up to Be

When you’re a family guardian, your rundown of to-dos presumably feels unending: regular checkups, distributing pharmaceuticals, preparing suppers, shopping, booking home visits, also watching over your own particular family, living up to expectations, and, goodness, attempting to cut out a couple of minutes of peace and calm… what’s more, that is just Monday.

Keeping in mind the end goal to handle the comprehensive rundown of obligations, numerous parental figures swing to multitasking to finish it all at all measure of time. I characterize multitasking as directing two (or more) inconsequential exercises in the meantime – lets say, doling out a solution while chatting on the telephone with your tyke’s educator. “Did I simply give both of you or three pills, Mom?” You see where this is heading.

The fact of the matter is, viable multitasking is an interesting expression. Examination has demonstrated that your cerebrum can just process one movement at once. In any case, what the mind is to a great degree great at is quickly changing starting with one errand then onto the next.

Consider this: “Changing from assignment to undertaking, you feel that you’re really paying consideration on everything around you in the meantime. Be that as it may, you’re most certainly not.” You’re truly flipping between errands at stunning rates. Evidently, we were never multitasking. It’s a myth!

For a considerable length of time, we’ve been persuade that individuals who are successful multitaskers have either hereditarily acquired this one of a kind capacity, or, through steady practice, have obtained the aptitudes needed to capacity at more elevated amounts than whatever remains of us. Interestingly, numerous family parental figures really try to be capable multitaskers on the grounds that they accept it’ll in the long run make life simpler for everybody.

You may say, “I have a huge amount of things to do and just such a great amount of time to do them, I need to multitask.” But constant multitaskers eventually lessen their forces of mental association, exhibit expanded trouble exchanging in the middle of undertakings, and report more social issues than low-multitasking companions, as indicated by Clifford Nass, an educator of interchanges at Stamford University. On top of that, the quick swapping between assignments additionally creates beats of anxiety hormones, which add to heath issues like memory brokenness.

Be that as it may, there are a few new propensities you can embrace to relieve stretch and empower you to concentrate all the more effectively:

1. At the begin of every day, organize your errands into three gatherings: the assignments that you must do, undertakings that you ought to do lastly those assignments that you might want to do. Concentrate just on the “musts” – everything else is icing.

2. For family guardians, vulnerability is the main assurance, so when spontaneous occasions appear, hit the interruption catch and see where to incorporate these spur of the moment assignments on your schedule. Only in light of the fact that an assignment comes up out of the blue, doesn’t mean it’s consequently an “unquestionable requirement.”

3. Don’t go only it. As you calendar your day, recognize a relative or companion that can assist and after that request help. Requesting help can be engaging.

4. When things go haywire, step away for a couple of minutes. The basic demonstration of changing your physical position has an enormous passionate effect. Once you’ve recovered your cool, give back your consideration regarding your “must” rundown.

5. Know that multitasking may feel great, similar to an old shoe, yet making a purposeful regard for limited your center and compartmentalize will help you abstain from feeling overpowered.

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Parenting: Raising Tweens and Teens

Posted on Sep 5, 2008 in Blog, Families, Family, Motherhood, Parenting, Teen Boys, Teen Girls, Teens, Tweens, Working Moms

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Ways to Avoid the Pitfalls of Parenting Tweens

Parents usually get a different sense of drama, mystery, horror, comedy and self­help

while raising a tween or teen. Roller coaster emotions and bizarre behavior leaves many

at their wits end. Yet, the high, low and extreme emotions that 10-­14 year old children

express are completely normal! From self­image to social status, it’s a critical period of

massive change. It’s a time of major transformations for parent too; however, there are

things that you can do to avoid pitfalls and ensure that everyone survives it!

Each child has traits, preferences and interests that are unique to him. During this phase

of their development, tweens are full of curiosity about themselves, their peers and their

role in society. A considerable amount of their time is spent socializing using fashion,

social media and music to articulate who they are. Because they don’t know any better,

they unfairly compare themselves to other children that they are around. They also have

major attitudes that change just like the weather! All of these characteristics are indicative

of a child who is entering into a new phase of growing up.

Dealing with a tween who thinks he knows everything at 10­12 can really test your

patience! In fact, some parents find it challenging not to use their pre­tween parenting

style when dealing with their developing child. When children are younger, they need

more instructions because they haven’t developed the necessary skills to judge and make

decisions independently. However, as they grow up and gain more independence

research shows that their development is enhanced by guidance, support and a positive

relationship with their parents. The following are a few ways to avoid some of the pitfalls

of parenting tweens:

Focus on a healthy relationship

When it comes to tweens and teens, parenting from a perspective of power can have the

complete opposite effect of the desired outcome. They oftentimes revolt and become

defiant instead. However, cultivating a healthy relationship with your tween or teen can

help the two of you get through this turbulent phase. The basis of all healthy relationships

is love, respect, mutual concern, warmth, laughter and trust. When children have those

fundamentals in relationships at home, it positively affects the way they feel about

themselves, their interactions with peers, and, people abroad.

Don’t take mood swings personally

Even the most patient parents are tried when their tween slams a door, rolls his eyes or

becomes snappy. However, it’s important to understand that mood swings are largely due

to the enormous amount of hormonal changes that your tween is experiencing. Boys and

girls experience invisible and visible physical changes that make them feel less secure,

question their identity, and search for understanding about how to deal with the

transformation. Monitor the changes in your tween’s emotions, academic performance,

interactions with others as well as diet and sleeping patterns. If you notice behavior in

excess of basic brooding, consult with a licensed psychologist or other mental health

professional.

Set dates for family fun

Tweens and teens need to have fun with their parents even when they act like they don’t.

They actually like spending time with you, but, you have to be intentional about it. Set

dates for doing fun things together. It doesn’t have to be a major outing. It can be as

simple as baking cookies, decorating or organizing a room, watching a movie together, a

DIY project, attend a college athletic game together…the ideas are endless! The most

important thing here is the special time that you spend together. It conveys support, love,

and that you have a meaningful connection with your tween.

Nurture your tween’s quest for his identity

The remarkable behavioral changes that tweens experience include: mood swings; a

quest to discover self and individuality; greater inclination to succumb to social forces like

peer pressure; and, less interest in spending time with parents. However, as your tween

moves towards more independence, he still needs your guidance and support. Encourage

activities that help him use his natural abilities, express special gifts and show his

uniqueness. For example, if he’s good at playing a particular sport, encourage his

participation in school and/or extracurricular activities that will help him cultivate his skills.

About Author:

Trevicia Williams, Ph.D. is a leading expert on helping people “get there,” achieving

balance and success at home and work. She is a life coach, author, speaker and

media contributor passionate about keeping people savvy about healthy relationships and

human behavior in an ever changing world. Learn more at http://www.treviciawilliams.com

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The Hyperactive Family

Posted on Sep 4, 2008 in Blog, Families, Family, Fatherhood, Healthy Eating, Motherhood, Nutrition, Parenting

Meals for busy families

Ways to Carve Out More Time for Family Activities

Every family with k-12 and college children are gearing up for back-to-school! While doing so, you may ponder: Is it possible for you to get ready for yet another hyperactive year again? Prepare lunchboxes the night before, go from taking kids to school to network and business gatherings, put on make-up during traffic stops, assist with after school work, dash to music lesson pickups – just to return home, eat dinner and send everybody off to bed, and afterward wake up to hyperactive weekend of baseball practice, football games, and celebrations to attend?

Take a deep breath, and, exhale! Have a discussion with your children about changing the number of activities they would like to participate in. Multiple activities are not only costly, but, they greatly reduce the amount of time both parents and children have for other important activities. Many parents are insisting upon putting the attention on more family time. Here are a few ways to change the course of activities:
Family Fun Night

This is another variety on the Sunday early lunch subject. Friday night, proclaiming the end of the work-week, is one of the best times to concentrate on crew. While others sit tight in line for tables at stuffed eateries, get a takeout pizza and make a beeline for the farm. Let children alternate every week setting the motivation: Video? Restraining infrastructure? Scrounger chase for spare change? Whatever…it’s a period to recollect that our house is not simply our mansion. In the 21st century, home and family is our stronghold, our best assurance from the attack of the day in and day out world.

Restrict Activities for Children

Simply say no to overscheduling. Limit your children to one afterschool activity. Period. This may be harder for a few folks than children to consider. You need Johnny to proceed with piano; he truly needs to make the hockey group. How to pick?

Consider it along these lines: Teaching children to settle on decisions is a vital an aspect of your responsibilities as a guardian. Every one of these exercises construct aptitudes, giving kids a feeling of what they can do, yet time went through with family gives them a feeling of who they are. Have a go at utilizing this methodology: “You need to surrender something (piano or hockey) to get something (genuine feelings of serenity or time to relax).”

Create Boundaries for Yourself

As a guardian, you too have your breaking points. Fundamentally, you make them level out amid the week. Period. Mother has a book club or a yoga class. Father’s playing squash. Basically, you can’t “be there” for children when you’re not around. The customs that construct closeness – sleep time stories, nestles before the flame or a most loved TV show – can’t happen when Mom and Dad utilize the front entryway like a rotating entryway.

P.S. Mother & Dad: This doesn’t block a “night out on the town” for you folks! Keep nurturing your relationship by planning a relaxing night for two from time to time.

Eliminate TV

Or if nothing else dissect it. Eliminate the TV amid suppers. The outcome, as anyone might expect, is better casual conversation and a less bazaar like air at supper. Taking a seat to watch a specific show or feature can be an awesome route for families to unwind together, yet having the tube on out of sight just includes another level of clamor and anxiety. Additionally, consider this: No TV for spans of time during the week, i.e. 5:00 pm-bedtime on nights before school. More opportunities for homework, perusing, talking, playing.

Insist on Family Dinners

Decide upon a consistent mealtime so that all family members can eat together. It might mean changing schedules to make it work; however, it can be done.

 

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Happiness

Posted on Aug 5, 2008 in Blog, Business, Families, Family, Happiness

Happiness

 

On the off chance that you need to be upbeat, concentrate on wellbeing, connections, simple joys and accomplishing a feeling of control of your prosperity, as per a review of more than 4,000 grown-ups age 35+ by the AARP. The study reviewed ways joy changes after some time and how age affects the components that are most essential to one’s sense of wholeness.

The review affirmed 20 years of research recommending that joy is U-molded over the life cycle: It crests in one’s 20s and starts to decrease, bottoming out in the mid-to-late 40s and rising again in maturity. A study by David Blanchflower and Andrew Oswald, driving specialists in the field of subjective prosperity, found that in the wake of controlling for components, for example, wage, training and conjugal status, “joy bottoms at age 49 for American guys and 45 for American females, and ages 44 and 43 separately for male and female Europeans.” The study discovered individuals reached their lowest between age 51 and 55.

This finding is prone to inspire a tune of “well, duh!” from individuals in their 40s and 50s with upsetting employments, home loans to pay and two or three children to get past school. However, Oswald and Branchflower likewise propose that bliss may base in midlife on the grounds that individuals grapple with fizzled dreams; in his 40s or mid 50s, the unsuccessful Hollywood on-screen character at last recognizes that his normal everyday employment is his genuine occupation:

“…people discover how to adjust to their qualities and shortcomings, and in midlife suppress the less likely to achieve goals of their former years.”

In the mean time, among more seasoned individuals “a sort of correlation procedure is grinding away: I have seen school-companions lose their life and come inevitably to esteem my blessings amid my latter years,” Oswald and Branchflower said. Moreover, they have more opportunity to spend on two things that are critical to satisfaction: companionships and basic joys.

The study discovered ladies have a tendency to be marginally more happier than men; individuals who are hitched or in a relationship are more content than singles and never-marrieds; and individuals who are resigned or as of now utilized are fundamentally more satisfied than individuals not utilized for pay. Training additionally helps: About 23 percent of individuals with a post-graduate degree appraised themselves “not very glad” contrasted with 37 percent of those with just a secondary school degree.

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How to Be Likeable

Posted on Aug 5, 2008 in Blog, Business, Business Coaching, Families, Productivity, Professional Development, Success

Ways to be likeable

Every day, the larger part of us burn through 70 to 80 percent of our waking hours imparting. The capacity to speak and be available with one another is a standout amongst the most essential things we learn as people. Viable correspondence makes an obligation of closeness, decreases clash, improves individual and expert connections, and by and large, helps you get a greater amount of what you need out of life. Be that as it may, when confronted with the opportunity to listen to what somebody needs to say, to tune in a “be available,” a large portion of us for the most part miss the mark. We’re occupied with pondering ourselves, or our errands, our work or in such a large number of cases, we’re occupied centered around gadgets.

Email. Cell phones. The 24-hour news cycle. In a period of widely inclusive innovation, we’re busier and more diverted than any other time in recent memory. As we jump more remote down the multitasking rabbit opening, it turns out to be more hard to do the one thing that may be vital to our own and business achievement: focus.

Giving somebody our full, full focus is major to our business and interpersonal connections. Truly listening to somebody, looking and listening to them, makes them feel increased in value, and makes for a positive feeling about you.

Likewise, individuals who are great audience members are more preferred, appraised as more appealing and accumulate more trust than the individuals who are less capable at tuning in, as per Graham D. Bodie, teacher of correspondence learns at The Louisiana State University. On the off chance that that is insufficient inspiration to keep your eyes, ears and brain open, great audience members are additionally high scholastic achievers, have better socio-enthusiastic improvement and are significantly more prone to get advanced at work.

So how would you get to be somebody who focuses?

“Being available with some individual, listening to what they need to say and not simply sitting tight for your swing to talk,” says Bennett. “Truly “getting” the individual. Understanding what they’re letting you know and why. That is the manner by which associations with other individuals are shaped.”

Keeping in mind the end goal to really associate with somebody, it’s key to be mindful of how our psyches and bodies carry on. “The more mindfulness we have, the more we will be able to be attentive and speak with other individuals,” says life/business mentor Ellie Gordon, a prepared psychotherapist and originator of the $60 million-a-year hosiery business, Hot Sox.

Like any muscle in the body, being perceptive means rehearsing and adding to the accompanying expertise set:

Be a good observer

Take the individual in, says Gordon. Be aware of their non-verbal communication. Reflecting the way a man is standing and holding himself or herself is a capable approach to fabricate trust and comprehension. It makes the other individual feel great and listened to, whether they’re a grandchild letting you know about their first day at school or an associate verbal blistering you around a late professional.

The eyes have it

The capacity to keep up eye contact is a critical powerful device that passes on feeling, forms associations and demonstrates enthusiasm, as indicated by a Michigan State University study. Additionally, individuals who turn away their look are frequently seen as conniving.

Looking at somebody without flinching as opposed to looking around the room or at your mobile phone is the least demanding—and now and then hardest—approach to keep up your core interest. The key is to keep up a proper measure of eye contact—50 percent of the time when talking and 70 percent of the time while tuning in.

Tune in

“Being available with some person who gives you the space to talk and offer yourself with them has a tendency to make a bond and positive sentiments,” says Bennett. Notwithstanding, listening doesn’t mean simply being physically peaceful. It means calming your brain and really listening to what the individual is letting you know. Shockingly, a considerable lot of us are poor audience members because of the basic reality that we can think speedier than we can talk.

While a large portion of us talk at a rate of 125 words for each moment, the human personality is equipped for comprehension somebody talking at 400 words for each moment, as per research by the University of Missouri. Henceforth, we’re just using 25 percent of our mental limit, leaving the remaining 75 percent to concentrate on bills, excursion, work or whatever else that pops into our brain at any given minute.

“It requires center and a deliberate push to say, ‘I’m not listening to that general automaton in my mind,’ says Gordon. At the point when your psyche meanders, individuals notification, and it detracts from the legitimacy of the discussion.

Understand

Feeling for somebody is truly being able to comprehend the “humankind of a circumstance” and realizing what it intends to be in the other individual’s shoes.

Being comprehended is a key piece of interpersonal correspondence. When we genuinely feel listened to, in the passionate feeling of the word, we feel more fulfilled by our connections, as per Bodie’s exploration. Also, individuals who have a high EQ—passionate insight—are fit for settling on better choices basically in light of the fact that they have the ability to see a circumstance from another person’s point of view.

“It’s not listening to the story in your mind,” said Gordon. “It’s seeing into the hearts of others. The abundance and profundity of where you can run with one another is really significant.”

Past this, there are specialized clever little tidbits you can use to focus, such as rehashing a man’s name or even the words they utilize. Both of these things pass on that you’re tuning in, says Bennett. Be that as it may, in general, the way to focusing is being authentic.”It’s the mix of a tranquil personality and a genuine expectation to listen to the individual that you’re associating with.”

 

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